by Stephanie | 11:37 pm

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay…

No matter where you go, who you speak to, or what you do, someone always comes up to you with a question that you’ve been avoiding for so long throughout every conversation: “how are you doing?”

If we put it into perspective, most of us lie whenever that question comes up. We’re so used to hearing it from family, friends, co-workers, and strangers, that our brains have found a way to give an automatic response without actually acknowledging the way that we truly feel.

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

Life isn’t perfect for anyone. We all struggle, we’re all dealing with loss, sadness, grief, financial issues, or lifestyle inconveniences; we’re all fighting internal forces that prevent us from fully living our lives, and that’s completely okay. Pretending to have a perfect life, job, and relationship, are not ways to make ourselves believe our own lies; that’ll only make things worse.

Recognizing that there’s something that you need to work with, something that’s not letting you fulfill your whole potential is a great step towards understanding the power our minds have.

it’s okay not to be okayIt’s okay not to be okay. You can feel sad, depressed, stressed, mad, disappointed, or anxious, it doesn’t matter. You’re allowed to feel and you owe it to yourself to make up for the millionth lies you have been telling yourself and everyone else around you.

How To Break A Generalized Pattern

The things we are taught when we are young are crucial when it comes to our life’s development. Sometimes we don’t even recognize how toxic and misleading these messages are until we decide to pause those beliefs and start constructing a whole new belief system. It’s important to truly comprehend who we are and what we stand for before planting those same beliefs onto other generations.

  • Support Your Psychological Wellness – The breaking of generational cycles begins with you. Ask yourself: are there any personal conduct standards, addictive characteristics, on-going patterns and health beliefs, or acquired practices that don’t serve your life in a satisfying manner?
  • For Your Mental Health, Choose Wellness – Break the negative grasp that you may have on your life. Do you believe that “some things are best remaining unspoken”? In some rare cases, that perspective may be alright. However, these restrictions  may result in conditions that have a negative impact on our lives. Things that are worthy of discussion — need to be discussed. We can’t go around living trapped in a bubble of problems that are not even ours to begin with. Work towards breaking those cycles.
  • You Can Do Better When You Know Better – It is acceptable to have a different standard or perspective for your life. We don’t have to believe in whatever our parents or grandparents believed — or stand by with what they chose to accept and what they didn’t. It is not a requirement for us to let someone else’s life beliefs and perspectives become our own. We are our own person, we can make decisions based on what we stand for, not what others want us to stand for.

Write Down Your Goals

Life is challenging and sometimes we can’t seem to find something to aim our targets at and make sure we accomplish that task. Did you know that writing down your goals gives you an extra boost of fulfillment which helps you to completely achieve said goal?

I know just how frustrating achieving your goals can be and because of that, I decided to create this goal sheet to help you get started.okay not to be okayTo print, you can download it here.

Self-Care

Oftentimes, we’re so in-depth with our stressful situations that we completely forget about ourselves. Self-care isn’t just working out, eating healthy, or going to the spa. Self-care can be as simple as taking time to read a book, organize your nightstand, spend time with your pet, and relaxing while taking a well-deserved nap. As we said before, life is hard, and sometimes the best we can do is simply get out of bed and try our best to get past the day.

I’m in no way a digital creator, but I tried my best to create this self-care check-in sheet for you to use.
self-check sheetYou can simply save the image or download this PDF file so you can have an HQ print of the mentioned sheet. This could be a daily practice if you want to add it to your daily routines, or you can even add your self-care strategies.

You Deserve To Live A Fulfilling Life

As we stated before, it’s okay not to be okay. As much as we’d like to achieve a perfect life that’s just unrealistic. We can do things and change things in our lives that could potentially help us along this journey, but it’s not always going to be the fastest road to take.

Remember, you don’t always have to feel like you have your whole life under control. Managing your mental health is key to everything that we have discussed here. It’s not an easy road but together, lifting each other, and celebrating each other’s achievements, by that we can not only help ourselves feel better but we can also help others who might need a helping hand. Of course, we’re all on the same road but not all paths lead to the same safe zone. Needing an extra hand to help us deal with our struggles is a powerful and brave move for anyone who might find that talking to a therapist is a waste of time. I’m here to tell you that it is not. There are so many resources out there. Due to our current situation, it can be hard to take that step and because of that I will suggest you giving Online-Therapy a try; they’ve been helping so many people over the years and it’s no different now. So many therapists are available at the tip of your finger. Don’t let the opportunity go by. For you, for me, for everyone; we all deserve to feel good again.

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Comments

Kokontala

Hi Stephanie, I’ve just gone through your article about ” It’s okay not to be okay” This is a truly amazing post and I liked it a lot. I must agree with you that most of us have that habit of saying it’s okay while the opposite is the situation at hand at the moment. We all have complications in life but we feel like other people live a much better life than us, that is why we hide our life challenges, be it financial problems, relationship problems or any other challenge. Thanks for sharing this encouraging piece of writing with us.

Apr 26.2021 | 01:35 am

    Stephanie

    Thank you for taking the time to read this article. Hope you’re doing okay. 

    Apr 26.2021 | 02:27 pm

Gaurav Gaur

Hi Stephanie
Thanks for sharing your views on “ It’s ok not to be ok” . What he thought full sentence .I never took it in this sense .As you perfectly said, sometimes it is necessary to stop, wait and watch what we are doing ?You can always start a beginning with Ground Zero and there’s nothing wrong with that .It gives strength . I liked your goal sheet and self-care checklist .Thanks for the PDF version.
Warm Regards,
Gaurav Gaur

Apr 26.2021 | 03:55 am

    Stephanie

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and you’re welcome for the downloadable PDFs.

    Apr 29.2021 | 12:23 am

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